Conflict in Marriage - The Causes

Conflict is normal and is a major problem in the marriage, regardless of who are involved in marriage. It is common to hear people say they want to marry someone who is compatible with them. This is good and desirable, but does not eliminate the possibility of conflict. Compatibility, depending on a parameter, can actually increase conflict in marriage. If it is only based on the material, intellectual or physical content, can create disobedience, pride, and rubbing shoulders. Consider the high rate of marriages fell among celebrities, and you will understand what I'm talking about.

conflict in a marriage I'm talking about is what went out of control, or come to public knowledge. I think their nascent stage, when they were still issues between husband and wife, when he was still sleeping room affair. It is the inability to manage par on that low a level that will get worse, and make it almost manageable. We note that if an angel, in his perfect condition comes to marry a human being on earth will be conflict. In fact, there will be more conflict as the grief and other problems will wear people out. Although the angel would be too perfect for a human being, imperfections of the human beings will be terrible for the angels. However, it is the combination of perfect and imperfect individuals. Consider, then, what will happen when you have a combination of an imperfect, flawed, and the mortal with a disability.

Why is the conflict in a normal marriage? The simple truth is that the two differ from each other. You have different backgrounds, different ideals and goals, different levels of exposure and experience in life, different levels of education, and most importantly, a different upbringing. Despite these differences, the two of you came to live together for the rest of your life. There will certainly be times when those differences come into play in the union, no matter how long you have been courted before marriage. However, the consolation is that he is God in his infinite wisdom, that is. In addition, it is so, and will remain so in all marriages, including those most successful. Therefore, it is no exception, and should not be.

The compounds of the conflict in marriage are selfishness, pride, impatience and rudeness by one or all of the partners. Over-expectation is another cause. When the excitement and enthusiasm for lovemaking to create over-expectation, disappointment will set in if these expectations are not met. But we know that no matter how long the courtship, it is just a mirror, which at best shows only half the picture. And excitement during this period will make two people to ignore the flaws to each other due to the simple fact that you do not stay together all the time. When they began to stay together it can be difficult for them to ignore or forgive easily. The point is that in marriage there is nothing to hide or pretend to, because the true and full picture will be on display. Marriage weddings that cost thousands of dollars after falling for several months or years, as a result.

Having examined the likely cause of conflict in marriage, the question is how to overcome them? In my next post I will describe practical ways of winning the conflict in marriage.